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In a lot of ways leading a multi-ethnic transition may be unlike anything you have attempted to lead before. The leadership required is highly situational and contingent. I think Acts 6:1-7 is a model we can learn a lot from.

In this text Grecian Jewish converts were not native to Palestine. They had relocated to Jerusalem because it was considered to be honorable to spend your last days in Jerusalem and to be buried there upon death.

Because of this belief, Jews of many different ethnicities from all over the Roman Empire moved there toward the end of their lives. This created a large population of widows.  The Jewish faith took the responsibility of caring for widows as a serious task. Because of the significant amount of nonnative widows located in Jerusalem, it created a social problem. There were not enough foreign Jewish synagogues to keep up with the demands of care.

Caring for them was not a value among pagan, nonnatives. With no relatives around, the widows were in dire straits. If we take the high road, we can assume the Grecian widows were not intentionally discriminated against. There is a high probability the Grecian church widows were not being adequately served simply because of the sheer number of them.

But we can’t lose sight of human nature. Many scholars think that Hebraic Jews, because of ethnic bias, looked down on Grecian Jews, and so there is a strong probability that Grecian widows were intentionally overlooked. The results are the same regardless of motive. A biblical mandate to care for widows was being violated. How did the leadership respond? They did 4 things:

1)      Embraced ethnic diversity as an organizational DNA adventure (vv.1-2). When the slight was brought to their attention, they took it seriously and did not become defensive.

2)      Leveraged ethnic difference (vv. 3-4). They intentionally expanded the leadership structure to accommodate the needs of the Grecians among them.

3)      Mobilized money and personnel towards solutions (vv.5-6).  The expanded structure was not just lip service. They put feet on the new vision.

4)      Provided Clarity (v.1-7). Taken as a whole, all the steps provided clarity towards the real goal – spreading the gospel.

Jesus and Mary MagdaleneToday is International Women’s Day. Women are lovely, important, and wonderfully made in God’s image. There are so many considerable things to say about women and their substantial contribution to the establishment of the gospel. Many of us can directly trace our faith to a dedicated woman of God.

I’ve had the privilege of speaking at many Christian universities over the years. One of the things I always try to work into my message is a direct challenge to the young women in the audience, which is this – get a bigger vision for your life than trying to get your M.R.S. degree.

As a father of 2 daughters my wife and I are very sensitive to the constant messages they receive that their worth is determined by what some male thinks about them. When my wife talks about fashion, she says pick out clothing that is honoring towards God not what some boy thinks looks sexy. I tell them don’t operate on the assumption that you are going to get married one day – God may have something great for you to do that may require you stay single.

When a blessed and significant work is to be done in our world, at times it can be forgotten by us men that women are eligible to be God’s instruments as well. Ephesians 2:10 makes it clear that every man and woman has works to do for God. I believe it grieves God’s heart when leaders overlook the talents and contributions of someone simply because they are a woman.

God clearly has no problem using women to spread the gospel. Remember it was Mary Magdalene that provided the first witness of the risen Christ. Christ was a champion of women and Paul also speaks of women who worked with him in spreading the gospel. From the beginning of our faith there have always been women charged with reaching our world for His glory.

These dedicated women come in many forms. It’s the mother who decided to stay at home and be a homemaker instead of pursuing a career. Or the one who went out and worked however many jobs were needed to keep the household together in the midst of being abandoned by an irresponsible man.

It’s the single woman who never married and dedicated her life to serving in an under resourced community or in a gospel-hostile country somewhere in the world. I’ve always told my spouse the hardest job in the church is being the pastor’s wife. There are just so many examples of women who because of their faith the world became a better place.

So in honor of International Women’s Day, let’s do some reflection. What women role models have influenced you the most?

Ladies and gentlemen, like a bad horror movie I’m baaaaack :-)  There are times in your life where you run your schedule and other times where your schedule runs you. The last 2 months has been the latter for me! But I can breathe a little now so no more blog neglect. This Saturday morning take a few minutes of your time and watch this great video about a Christian group making a difference in Africa. It truly is a great story of how we can make a tangible difference in our world.

Last night I was doing my nerd thing, watching The History of Mankind: The story of all of us 
Mankindand it dawned on me. Human history is pretty brutal. Basically the cycle is one ethnic group finds out about the resources of the land that another ethnic group lives on; then the group with the superior weapons overpowers the others for those resources.  Ugly, unforgivable atrocities are committed and life goes on.

What this creates is a global context for historical ethnic distrust. It doesn’t matter how long ago the atrocities happened, we live with the implications for centuries. As William Faulkner once said, “the past is not dead – it is not even the past.”

Let me demonstrate what I mean with a small personal story that I often tell when I train leaders for multi-ethnic ministry.  When I went off to college at my first undergraduate institution (there were several but we won’t go there) my mom, sisters, and I get off the elevator with my stuff to move into the dorm room.

It was a coed dorm and down the hall comes walking this cute white young lady. She looks at me, smiles, and sweetly says “hi” to me in a way that clearly indicated it was more than a cursory greeting. Being the red blooded young male I was, I returned the compliment.  With gusto!

After the young lady left my Alabama-raised, Jim Crow surviving  mother looked me dead in the eye and with all the Christian convictions she had made a very clear proclamation to me: “Son don’t bring home no white girls.” This was more than a personal preference. This was a historical statement. Really if you think about mom’s background what else was she going to say?

God created us all with a capacity to trust other human beings regardless of skin color. But if we do not work to transcend the brutal histories that all of our ethnic backgrounds contain, trust will not happen. And it is not about doing the Sunday school, Kum-By-Yah thing of just letting by-gones be by-gones.

I think not. It’s about engaging the truth of the past, acknowledging and repenting of the atrocities, forgiving one another, and moving forward into a preferred racially righteous  future.

By doing these things we enlarge our capacity to trust across racial lines. The reality is the ability to trust resides in the One who stands outside of history. So for us it is not about righting the wrongs of the past – we have to leave that up to the One who is in charge of that  (“Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord”; Romans 12:19).  We have no authority to right historical wrongs.

However that does not mean we get a “get out of social justice free” card. Micah 6:8 begs to differ. Christians forget that things like the abolitionist, civil rights, and present day human trafficking movements were started and led by people inspired by the Scriptures.

If we are to be about our Father’s business we need to be fully aware of how broken this world is, and understand that our personal and corporate relationship to Him is the only factor in life that will determine historical destiny. So the choice is ours: Will the history of mankind be a site of redemption or a stumbling block for the Church?

 

It happens far too often for my liking. 3-4 times a year I get phone calls, texts, or some other communication bringing me the bad news. “Leader (blank) was caught doing (insert power, money, or sex sin here.)” And just like that someone who was leading towards God’s diverse Kingdom has destroyed years of ministry and a trail of tears is left behind.

I am frequently asked, especially by up and coming leaders, what the most important thing they can do to become more effective in the reconciliation movement. Almost always they are surprised by my answer.

They think I am going to tell them something in the realm of “doing,” i.e. to be more active in community social justice; or to gain more knowledge by reading certain authors. I never tell them to do more. I do tell them to be more. Specifically, be more in the presence of God. Personal holiness is the number one thing those of us who want to lead with reconciliation in mind must do. reconciler_03_solution

When I do consultations it is very rare that God hasn’t already tried to use a church to bring impact to the community, or bring racial integration to a university. I am never the first person on the scene to help them out.

I always ask for a history of the journey of reconciliation, and almost without fail a story will come up of a leader (or leaders!) who had things going in the right direction – but then suffered some moral failure. That moral failure stopped the whole program from going forward, and after years of wandering in the wilderness the organization finally conjured up enough moral gumption to try diversity again.

When we don’t practice personal holiness our sin has tremendous ripple effects. Marriages are destroyed; kids are heartbroken; young believers question their faith; churches are dissolved; universities go bankrupt; and maybe more importantly God’s will is delayed.

Noticed I said delayed, not stopped. It is a privilege that we have the opportunity to figure out where God is working, and an honor that He even bothers to invite us to join Him. Concerning the reconciliation movement, because we are swimming upstream it is even more of a blessing that God thinks we have the character to go against the societal grain.

But humbly we must realize he doesn’t need us. If we fall by the wayside, there is no question He will raise somebody else up to take our place. Believe that! The only thing that makes us special is our relationship with Him – period.

Don’t sign a peace treaty with your sinful habits. Get your walk with the Lord in order.  It has big time leadership ramifications.

Diane Martinez

Check out this great story about a graceful response to the issue of immigration – Immigrant Hope Santa Barbara 

I wanted to alert you to a couple of new resources. One is The CCDA Theological Journal. In this issue the focus is on reconciliation with a variety of authors including yours truly. Another resource is a book hot off the presses, Being the Church in a Multi-Ethnic Community: Why it matters and how it works.  I hope both of these help you on your journey.

A ministry colleague of mine is having an excellent conversation on Facebook about how the church has become feminized and what it will take to make church a much more masculine event. His premise is that church over time has become more feminized, and because of this it is one of the barriers that keep men from engaging in church en masse. His comment thread has 38 (and counting) replies so far.

The most interesting dynamic I observed about the conversation is that it fluctuates between light humor, “masculine” vs. “feminine” worship service practices, and deep reflection of what exactly is considered masculine. It is a conversation anyone involved in ministry ought to be having, because one thing that seems to be constant across all ethnicities is there are more women than men in church.

I thought about posting my thoughts on the comment thread, but it’s morphed into a blog post so here is what I think about the subject. First off I think trying to make a list of masculine characteristics is tricky business. Who decides what should be on the list?

I remember when I first got married I was the family treasurer in spite of the fact that I am horrible with math. Why? Because that is what a “man” does. Also I am horrible at anything mechanical, another trait on the masculine list. Wisely I’ve turned all things financial and mechanical over to my wife. So am I less of a man? There will never be a list long enough that all men fit.

Second I have come to the conclusion there is no “magic bullet” event that puts you over the top. Many men look for some sort of defining moment that makes them a man. Some societies have formal rites of passages. Others have informal ones. I know in our country in most non-Christian communities it usually involves conquering something.

Maybe its women, so when you have sex for the first time you’re in the club. Or alcohol, as if you can “hold your liquor” you’re a man. It doesn’t make logical sense that one day you are a boy, you do something, and then you’re a man.

I will let others debate about whether or not there is such a thing as a feminine worship song and masculine preaching. To me that is not the heart of the matter. At the core what the church needs to be doing is helping men figure out what does it mean to be masculine?

If we do that, the songs and preaching take care of themselves. Based on two decades of ministry, I believe any church that helps men do the following will have no problem being considered a masculine church:

1. Navigation help on relationships with women. We are a mess in this area! Some men view women as the enemy, or as I mentioned earlier something to be controlled or conquered. Others are scared to death of them. Most don’t know how to deal with their mother, wife, or daughters in a healthy manner. Church needs to be a space for men to learn how to engage the women of their life in a healthy way.

2. Helping them deal with their upbringing. Nowadays rare is the man who does not have emotional baggage from his family of origin. Most of them have never dealt with it, because as men we are conditioned to “buck up” and “get over it.” It leads to emotional retardation. Church needs to be a space where men can learn to deal with the pain of their past and forgive those who have harmed them.

3. Providing fellowship. Whether it is a sports team or a gang, men want to feel they are part of something outside of themselves. That was the primary drawing card of the meteor that was Promise Keepers in my opinion. It was a well-run event for fellowship to happen. What I remember about those events was not the event itself but all the camaraderie around it (the long van trips, conversations into the wee hours, the laughter during the meals, etc). Church needs to provide opportunities for men to be real with one another in the presence of only other men.

4. Let them share their gifts. Men want something to do that makes them feel significant. My grandfather was not a church going man, but unlike me he was very mechanical. Whenever my grandmother’s church needed something fixed they called him and he was there. Problem is they never picked up on that so he wasn’t there for anything else. When I pastored I “tricked’ numerous unchurched men into being churched by simply finding out what they were good at and asking them to use that gift within the confines of the church. Whether they are churched or unchurched, create places for men to use their God given gifts.

5. 3 for life’s road. I have no idea where this adage came from but I hear Christians say it all the time. Every man needs a Paul, Barnabas, and Timothy in their life. In other words we need mentors, colleagues, and mentees. The church that masters making sure this happens among men will be the church that will have no problem drawing them.

Here’s an early head’s up as well as potential opportunity. There is a great movie being released in the fall called Unconditional (see trailer above).

It showcases community leaders as heroes as well as challenges some stereotypes. The producers are trying to connect with non-profit ministries who are geared towards social justice ministry and youth development.

If you are a part of or know ministries that fit in that category, you have the opportunity to be on their website. At the end of the movie viewers will be encouraged to give and/or see how else they can get involved. If you are interested check out their website at www.unconditionalthemovie.com.

An excerpt from the book Reconciliation 101:  A Handbook for Ministry Leaders

The only way reconciliation—whether racial or any other type—will become a priority within a church is if it is viewed as a mark of the gospel.   Oftentimes, churches resist stressing reconciliation, offering up the explanation that they are focused on fulfilling the Great Commission.

My response is that it is impossible to fulfill the Great Commission without fulfilling the first and second greatest commandments, which together are a call to reconciliation.  Reconciling brokenness of all forms in a world dominated by political, economic, and ethnic conflict serves as a witness to the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

To understand reconciliation from a biblical point of view, we must see how it operates throughout Scripture—from the very beginning (Genesis), through the ebb and flow of sin and division, to the end. We must see how reconciliation is God’s idea.

For starters, we can think of the people of the world as one giant family—large, colorful, diverse . . . and dysfunctional! The Bible then depicts a world of smaller, competing families, known as nations. The links that form these families are ethnic cultural groups, whose members share familiar origins and basics of culture such language, values, attitudes and beliefs.

Throughout history as well as today, we see a theme of struggle, discrimination and conflict among these families: one story after another of individuals and cultural groups trying to advance their own interests over others.

If we are not careful, as we follow the biblical story we might mistakenly think that other people are the enemy—“other people” being nonbelievers in God. Yet in reality, we face a powerful spiritual army of evil beings whose goal is to frustrate God’s efforts toward a united, inclusive family:

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms (Ephesians 6:12).

When we watch the news and see stories of “ethnic cleansing,” or women being sold as sex slaves; or when we look at a history book and remember how the U.S. government allowed the enslavement of people based on their African heritage, we cannot forget that the root of these events are spiritual. Therefore, the primary way to address these and other evil atrocities should be rooted in spiritual practice as well.

When it comes to reconciliation, the first step of the church in a deeply broken world is not strategy but prayer. Joseph Cardinal Bernardin wrote in The Gift of Peace that prayer was “closing the gap between what I am and what God wants of me.” We will not be successful unless we develop a vibrant, strong prayer life to close the gap.

The gap exists because as sinners we are all in some degree of rebellion against God. Psalms 2:1 asks, “Why do the nations conspire, the people plot in vain?” The quick answer is because they are in rebellion. Let’s take a look at the root of the rebellion.

In Genesis 2 we see God’s plan for unity in the Garden of Eden: Relationships were perfect between people and God, between people themselves, and with the environment. It was truly a blessed state of existence.

Actually, the word blessed does not accurately describe what was going on. A better word is a Hebrew one, shalom. Shalom means people living in a situation of completeness in every aspect of their human existence.

Then, the familiar story of Genesis 3 tells of the moment when the whole situation of shalom unraveled, beginning the dysfunctional mess of a family we have today.

In essence, we see barriers go up between Adam and Eve and between both them and God. And along with the barriers come hostility. In Genesis 3:15, God speaks to the evil being (represented by the serpent) who started it all:

And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heel.

This verse foretells how our world will be in a continual conflict between humans and representatives of evil. The battle lines have been formed, and the world from now until Christ’s return will struggle in a messy conflict.

Yet with Christ’s death and resurrection, and the gift of the Holy Spirit, God reveals the power for unity—with God and with each other. God then gave to the church the gift of reconciliation, in reliance upon that power (2 Corinthians 5:18).

In a world where conflict reigns supreme, only God can cause a family reunion of all people. It is God’s initiative and God’s work. The reunited family called the Church then becomes a witness to a world marred by conflict.

The stress of the New Testament is toward a community of people making their presence known by living differently as the people of God (Ephesians 5:1-16; Galatians 3:6-9).  As we do this, the people around us will know where to look for God.

These instructions of how to live the Christian life are not geared toward individuals, but rather toward the community of believers. The concern is with the character of the church, stressing how the people of God should live in a rebellious, conflicted world. This is no small concern, as nothing less than the essence of the gospel is at stake.

In a reunited family, value and significance don’t lie in race, ethnicity, power, wealth, gender or any other attitude found in the rebellious world. In the reunited family called the Church, our values, attitudes and beliefs have been radically restructured through the power of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 3:26-29).

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